Wednesday, April 15

WHEN EVERYBODY WINS - DOES EVERYBODY LOSE?



". . . how would you like it if at your job, every time you made the slightest mistake a little red light went on over your head and 18,000 people stood up and screamed at you?” -Jacques Plante. Goalie. Montreal Canadians.

I think everyone has now heard of the everyone wins sports tournaments? 

Now that my son's hockey season has drawn to a close, his league not subscribing to the everybody wins ideal, I realized while watching his last playoff game (they didn't make the finals) how far he has come in terms of dealing with that oh so painful loss of a game.

Being an avid Senators fan since . . . well being old enough to understand and love the game of hockey, he's grown from huge tears when the Senators lost to being able to bounce back from his own team losing. "That's the sport, mom." 

Mind you this has been a good ten year span of time, and in between there been many bouts of weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth; I still cringe with the pain of watching him, as the last shoot out player in a tie game miss the shot, but all of this has taught him how to deal with the mixed bag of emotions that come with winning and losing gracefully in sports and life.
In hind sight, I can't really see how these lessons would have been taught as well through the everybody wins a trophy tournament ideal.

Now, he's in his teens and a goalie, and with that position comes a new sense of . . . something (see quote up top) And as I read the mixed opinions about everybody wins tournaments, I ask:

• When do these children learn how to lose?
• Where is the motivation to achieve something extra?
• And is there something lost when you win no matter the effort put in?